Make an Enquiry
Make an Enquiry

This website isn’t a crisis service. If you need to talk to someone now, free call or text 1737 (NZ) or call Lifeline 13 11 14 (AU).

Whether you’re looking for support for yourself or have a question about IADC, we’re glad you’re here. Choose the option that fits you best.

  • Seeking support for grief

    For people considering IADC-informed therapy for themselves. A few gentle questions help check whether IADC is a good fit right now.

    Begin an enquiry

  • Contact Graham

    For therapists interested in IADC training or joining IADC in New Zealand, and anyone with a general question. No screening questions.

    Get in touch

Seeking support for grief

Not what you’re looking for? Contact Graham instead

Before You Begin

When you submit your enquiry, you’ll be able to choose which practitioner you would like to contact directly. This information is provided to help guide your choice - you’re welcome to select whoever feels like the best fit for you.

Available practitioners:

You’ll be able to choose who you’d like to contact once you’ve answered the questions. If you’re unsure, Graham can help guide you.

To get started, please answer the following questions.

  1. Q1: Has it been at least several months since your loved one passed away?

    This sounds appropriate to explore further.

    Having some time between the death and the therapy process can help create enough space for IADC to be approached gently and safely.

    It may be better to allow more time first.

    In the earlier stages of grief, additional support or more time may be more helpful before considering IADC.

  2. Q2: Have you experienced recent or ongoing thoughts of suicide or self-harm?

    A more supported approach may be needed first.

    Thank you for sharing this. IADC may not be the right fit at this time, and more ongoing or supported care may be more appropriate first.

    This may be appropriate to explore further.

    Your response suggests that IADC may be suitable to consider as a next step.

    If you need to talk to someone now: in Aotearoa New Zealand, free call or text 1737 any time. In Australia, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. In an emergency, call 111 (NZ) or 000 (AU).

  3. Q3: Do you feel able to connect with and experience your feelings of grief during a session?

    This can support the therapy process.

    Being able to gently connect with feelings of grief can help the process work more effectively.

    That is completely okay.

    It may be more helpful to build safety and support around these feelings first before considering IADC.

  4. Q4: Is grief related to the loss your main reason for seeking support?

    This aligns well with the approach.

    IADC is specifically intended to support grief and bereavement, so this may be a suitable fit to explore.

    Another kind of support may be more helpful first.

    If other concerns are more central right now, it may be best to focus on those with the right therapeutic support before considering IADC.

  5. Q5: Are you comfortable with the structure of IADC sessions?
    What does a session involve?

    IADC therapy is typically conducted over two sessions, each lasting approximately 90 minutes.

    Your therapist guides you through a structured process using bilateral stimulation (guided eye movements adapted from EMDR therapy). The focus is on the memories and emotions connected with your loss that carry the strongest sadness or distress.

    IADC does not require any spiritual beliefs, and your experiences are not interpreted or explained by the therapist. Your practitioner will always take time to discuss your circumstances carefully before proceeding.

    That sounds like a good fit.

    Your response suggests you are comfortable with how IADC is structured and offered.

    You are welcome to ask questions first.

    If anything about the structure feels unclear or not quite right, you are very welcome to enquire before making a decision.

Next Step

Please share your details below so we can connect you with the right practitioner.

Who would you like to contact?

Your information will be treated with care and kept confidential. It is shared only with the practitioner you choose and with Graham Southwell, who coordinates IADC in New Zealand, for the purpose of responding to your enquiry.

Contact Graham

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Graham Southwell

Psychotherapist, Auckland

Your message goes directly to Graham, who coordinates IADC in New Zealand.

Whether you’re a therapist interested in IADC or simply have a question, Graham would be glad to hear from you.

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About your practice (if you’re asking about joining or training)
Country (optional)

For example PBANZ, NZAC, PACFA or AHPRA

Sessions offered (optional)
Are you currently practising IADC? (optional)

What happens next

Seeking support for grief

  1. Your enquiry is sent

    Your enquiry is sent securely to the practitioner you’ve chosen. If you have no preference, Graham will personally guide it to the most suitable practitioner. Your details aren’t stored on this website.

  2. A personal reply

    The practitioner will respond to you directly by email, usually within a few working days.

  3. An initial conversation

    Together you can talk through what you’re seeking and whether IADC feels right for you. There’s no obligation to go further.

Contact Graham

  1. Your message is sent

    Your message goes directly to Graham. Your details aren’t stored on this website.

  2. A personal reply

    Graham will reply to you personally by email, usually within a few working days.

  3. Next steps

    If you’re exploring training or joining IADC in New Zealand, Graham can talk you through the pathway and what’s involved.